<![CDATA[Spirit of Lotus Therapeutic Massage in Kingwood, TX - Your Zen Life Blog]]>Wed, 16 Aug 2017 16:24:00 -0600Weebly<![CDATA[Oktoberfest Brew & Renew Massage]]>Fri, 14 Oct 2016 17:54:53 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/10/oktoberfest-brew-renew-massage.html
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For a limited time, you can celebrate Oktoberfest in a most unique and relaxing way. Sorry, no beer included! But, you will experience the effect of hops in a whole new way.

Though hops is most well-known for being an ingredient in beers, it has been used for centuries for its ability to relieve pain, reduce anxiety, relieve headaches, enhance relaxation and sleep, and to boost the health and appearance of hair and skin.

The hops essential oil and infused massage oil settles the mind and calms the body. This is so unique an offering, I had to infuse the hops into the oil myself, so when it's gone, it's gone! Well, maybe until next year. Cheers!
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There is the beauty in action. Certified organic hops flowers infusing into a skin-nourishing avocado massage oil, almost ready!
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From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Licensed Massage Therapist Instructor
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com

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<![CDATA[Skydiving and Early Morning Workouts]]>Fri, 16 Sep 2016 06:44:13 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/09/skydiving-and-early-morning-workouts.htmlPicture
I happened across this meme in my news feed, and as someone who sees the sun rising as I'm working out in the morning, I had to laugh. But, at the same time, it got me thinking, ya know - it's kinda true. I previously spoke of how to get, and stay, motivated to get your body moving, and I'm gonna piggyback onto that with, what I think, is the best time of day to break a sweat. And, why, do I, as a massage therapist, keep talking about exercise? Because, keeping your muscles moving is an important ingredient to optimal muscle health. Exercise, stretching, massage, nutrition, etc.. It's a whole recipe.

So, I've tried different times of day to get my workout in, and first thing in the morning is by far my F-A-V-O-R-I-T-E. Yes, it's that dramatic. Despite the fact that I love literally everything about working out, if I have all day to think about it, I can come up with a million reasons to put it off and knock out a few other things on my to-do list instead. For whatever reason, until I am actually exercising, I do not feel like exercising. From what I gather, a lot of other people feel that way, too. That's where the whole "willpower" thing comes in, no?

This is one of the reasons an early AM workout works so well. It eliminates *some* of the need for the willpower (or maybe just redirects it to the whole getting to bed early bit). I roll out of bed, put on my workout clothes (unless I'm already wearing them, because sometimes I do that, too!), grab my gym bag and drive over there. I get everything ready the night before so I have to do as little thinking as possible when I get up, and I'm barely conscious throughout the process. It's a lot like when I went skydiving. As we climbed higher and higher in altitude in that little plane, and I knew the only way I was exiting was to jump, I kept my mind as blank as possible so as to not think about what I was about to do, so I wouldn't find myself holding onto the plane doorway like a cat in a bathtub. No thinking until I'm already there! Once I've stepped into the gym, it's like jumping off the plane. No turning back now. Just gotta go along for the ride, and have a hell of a lot of fun in the process. If you're not having fun, you're doing it wrong!

I know not everyone's magical hour is going to be first thing in the morning, but find that sweet spot that makes it as effortless as possible, and you will keep it up!

Got questions or need advice? You've got me all to yourself for a whole hour (or however long you book) every time you come in for a massage. ;)

From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Licensed Massage Therapist Instructor
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com
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<![CDATA[Muscles are Made for Moving]]>Wed, 31 Aug 2016 17:58:45 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/08/muscles-are-made-for-moving.htmlPicture
For years I struggled finding a way to stay consistently active. I tried different activities at different times - softball, basketball, yoga, running, dancing, home workouts, gym workouts, martial arts, etc.. I would stick with it for awhile, then sooner or later would lose motivation, interest, ability to maintain the schedule,
insert stock excuse to not keep working out here...and would take six months or a year to find something else to try. Once I got into my thirties, the lack of consistent activity started to catch up with me, and I soon found myself with debilitating back pain.

Muscles were made to move. The amount of time that many of us spend not moving in today's society - sitting at a desk, sitting in the car, sitting in front of the TV - does a huge disservice to the health of our muscles, and most people end up paying dearly for that, sooner or later. Massage is a wonderful way to help take care of ourselves, but regardless of whether or not you get massages, if you are not getting up and moving, you are missing out on the number one most beneficial way to keep your muscles in the healthiest condition possible.

Everyone has a different level of comfort and ability, but most people can find a way to get moving that will work for them. There are a number of excuses we can easily fall back on to not exercise - the most common being "I just don't have the time." I am here to tell you, as a mother of two kiddos running a household and a business on my own, if I can find the time, so can you. I promise. I did eventually find the workout method and routine that I was able to stick with in the form of Crossfit. At 6 o'clock in the morning. And I have NEVER been a morning person. Sometimes it takes a significant lifestyle change, and you just do it.

It's been three years now, and I'm still at it. Sometimes there are disruptions. I had to take a few months off last year due to health issues, but as soon as I was physically able, I was back in the gym (even able to participate in our in-box competition, as seen in the photo above).
Earlier this year, my kids' school schedule was making it difficult to get to a Crossfit class, so I went running a few times a week to stay active and dropped into classes when I could. This past summer I didn't work out much due to traveling (but I was hiking on my travels), but now I'm back on my normal schedule. Sometimes life temporarily pauses my workout routine, but I squeeze in what I can and I jump right back in the moment the disruption passes, so that working out becomes the norm and not working out is only a minor blip. That is something I previously was never able to do, and I realized the reasons for the prolonged inactivity were lack of true interest in my latest chosen activity, trying to do something that wasn't practical for my life, and just not making workout out a big enough priority. Having finally overcome all the many obstacles that can make it difficult to stay active with regularity, here are my tips to get up and get moving, and sticking with it!

1. Keep an open mind
I always thought I should be the kind of person that loves yoga. It fits with my interests and personality, so I tried making yoga my main thing, again and again. But, I could never stick with it for more than a few months at a time. It turns out that, though I enjoy yoga, it's not really my "thing". I discovered by starting Crossfit classes that weightlifting is my thing. Weightlifting is something I always thought seemed kinda boring, but oddly enough, it turned out to be what I love and look forward to getting myself to the gym for. I enjoy the other types of exercises we do in Crossfit for the sake of a well-rounded workout, but the weightlifting aspect is by far my true love. I also thought I preferred working out solo, but low and behold, I love the social aspect of Crossfit, and it's another reason I find it easier to drag myself to the box before the sun is up. So, I didn't know what I liked nearly as much as I thought I did, and I never would have known without trying something that seemed an unlikely match for me. If you haven't found your perfect match - keep looking! It might be what you least expect. People are not very good at predicting what they will and won't like without trying it. When you truly enjoy an activity, it doesn't feel like you are having to "force" yourself to exercise just to begrudgingly be healthy.

2. Make it a priority
This is the most important piece of advice. If your physical activity is low on the priority list, anything and everything else that comes up in life will get in the way of it. You put it off one day for this, another day for that, and before you know it, you haven't exercised in six months, and your strength and stamina you worked so hard for has ridden off into the sunset, on the back of your motivation. Like I said, I had to change my entire routine to make working out work for me. Making sure I get to bed early enough to get up early enough to get that workout in means structure and meticulous time management, two things I always rebelled against, as well as early to bed and early to rise, which goes against my very nature. But, workouts


in the morning are the only way I can ensure I am consistent, and it turns out my sacrifices are greatly rewarded. Not being in pain because my muscles are strong and healthy, being in a great mood (thanks endorphins!), and having more energy makes everything I do in life easier and more enjoyable. But, that being said...

3. Figure out what is practical for you
You may need to tweak your lifestyle a bit, but there are only so many mountains you can move, so take into consideration what will work for your life. Time is an issue for me, as it is for many, so the one hour Crossfit classes are a time efficient way for me to get in a great workout. Everyone has different considerations - budget, time, traveling to activity location, required gear, physical ability, etc.. If you pick an activity that isn't right for you or your life, it will become to difficult to maintain and you won't stick with it.

4. Mix it up
Even when you find your main thing, there are likely to be other activities that you enjoy doing here and there, so don't limit yourself! In addition to my regular workout routine, whenever possible I throw in other activities that I enjoy, but can't do on a regular basis - running, hiking, yoga, sports, etc.. That one hour three times per week in Crossfit is my foundation, but I love when I have opportunity to partake in other activities. Variety is the spice of life. :)

5. Find your motivation
There are many reasons people have driving them to stay active. Even when you enjoy the activity itself, there are going to be days when it is difficult to get up and get to it. That's when your motivation for doing this in the first place comes in. Whether it is for general health, weight control, increasing strength, being able to eat your favorite dessert more often, staying out of pain, having the ability to go on physically challenging adventures, whatever motivates you. Figure out what your true desire is and go with it. Desire is the secret to accomplishing anything in life. Set your goals, and use that as your driving force to keep going when the going gets tough. Put it on a sticky note on your mirror, a reminder on your phone, the background picture on your computer screen, or even create a vision board and display it somewhere you will see it every day!

6. Ease yourself in
Baby steps. Many people make the mistake of diving in too hard and fast when they start a new activity or workout routine, or return to one, and end up injured and/or burnt out. Take it easy at first, and let your body become accustomed to the new activities and routine. Be patient, and you will find it won't take long to start seeing and feeling very noticeable improvements.

7. Bonus tip - How I get moving when I feel like CRAP
Some days I wake up and feel like I am ready for a nap from the moment I crawl out of bed. I have no energy, I look in the mirror and for a second think I'm seeing a real life zombie staring back at me, and just an overall ickiness, for no discernible reason. I know I ate my vegetables, get plenty of sleep, have stayed active, and I'm not coming down with any sickness, and yet if I wandered onto the set of
The Walking Dead uninvited it's not likely anyone would even notice me. The last thing I feel like doing is exercise, or mowing the lawn, or running errands, or anything that doesn't fall under "staying in bed and watching viral videos all day." This is going to sound a bit random, but the way I get myself out of this FUNK is to Dance. It. Out. Yeah, that's right. I turn on happy, bouncy, dancey music that I really like and just get to dancing around the living room. It might feel a bit forced at first, because I didn't actually want to be moving around to begin with, but within a couple of minutes, I can feel my mindset and energy levels start to transform. In my mind, at least for a little bit, I am young and carefree and the only thing that exists in the world is the music and the dancing and that very moment in time. After a couple of songs, I can get on with the rest of my day.

Got any more tips to add? Comment below and share your ideas!



From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Licensed Massage Therapist Instructor
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com
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<![CDATA[Myth Buster - Does massage detox the body?]]>Wed, 24 Aug 2016 00:47:40 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/08/myth-buster-does-massage-detox-the-body.htmlPicture
Myth - "Massage releases trapped toxins in the body, and drinking lots of water will help to flush them out."

There are a number of pervading myths floating around in the massage world, and over and above all others is this one right here. The above statement is actually a two-for, as far as myths go, but because they are so often cited together I want to address both parts here. Though massage has many wonderful benefits for health and well-being, detoxing is not one of them, so let's clear the air.
A highly beneficial natural treatment like massage does not need false advertising mucking up it's reputation, after all.

Unfortunately, the myth of toxins being released by massage therapy is still taught in some schools, and therefore continues to be repeated by therapists old and new. Despite the fact that it has been debunked, it continues to persist, for a few reasons that I can tell - for one, not all massage therapists or instructors keep up with the latest research; two, it sounds good in a world where clever (but inaccurate) marketing has popularized the idea of "detoxing"; and three, clients often feel "massage drunk" after a session, and it sounds like a good explanation for that phenomenon.

Research has not found any evidence to show this supposed increase in "toxins" circulating through the body after a massage, trying to find the exit now that they have finally been let loose. Probably because our muscles don't store them up to begin with. Fat cells can hold onto certain types of toxic substances (more specifically, persistent organic pollutants, or, POPs), and heavy metals can build up in your bones, but


massage therapy is not capable of releasing any of those substances from the body. Of course, the word "toxins" gets thrown around so loosely in this context, I'm not sure exactly what substances are being referred to, and neither do those making these claims seem to be. Go ahead - next time a massage therapist (or physical therapist, or anyone making this claim) tells you that toxins are being released, ask them what the names of these toxic substances are. And if they say "lactic acid", nope, wrong!

Lactic acid is not a toxin, and it doesn't just sit in your muscles. Lactic acid is a substance produced during the process of cellular respiration. When you overwork a muscle, such as during a workout, lactic acid builds up, until you rest the muscle, at which point the process of cellular respiration continues and the lactic acid converts to the next step in the process. You know when lactic acid is building up because it produces a burning feeling, but also notice that burning feeling dissipates rather quickly once you rest your muscle.

And that whole "massage drunk" thing? Well, to be honest, no one knows for sure what causes it, but it is thought to be due to the way massage stimulates the nervous and endocrine systems. And, the reason you sometimes feel kinda "icky" following a massage? This is because massage therapy sends your body into a healing process following a mild inflammatory response. Don't be alarmed, as this is actually a good thing that will see you better off on the other end of it. None of these effects are due to an elevation of toxins circulating through your system.

Now, for the second half of the myth. The idea that you can flush toxins out of your body with water is erroneous. Your liver and your kidneys handle the job of filtering out undesirables from your blood, and drinking lots of water is not going to speed that process up. So, no, you can't flush things out in the way it sounds. However, if you have noticed that you usually have to pee right after your massage, that is because of the way massage stimulates your lymphatic system and gets those fluids moving right along. That being said, staying hydrated is always important, so replacing those fluids after a massage is a good idea, but no need to go overboard.

Here's a short list (but certainly not all-inclusive) of some of the actual benefits of massage therapy:
  • Pain relief and management
  • Stress relief
  • Lowered blood pressure
  • Increased range of motion (ROM)
  • Improve circulation
  • Boost the immune system
  • Injury prevention
  • Improved muscle tone
  • Increased strength

From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Licensed Massage Therapist Instructor
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com
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<![CDATA[10 Ways to Practice Self Care]]>Sun, 15 May 2016 01:58:30 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/05/10-ways-to-practice-self-care.htmlPictureClick the image for a bigger version.
Most of us don't spend nearly enough time taking care of ourselves. Self care is all about keeping yourself healthy and sane. It can be anything that contributes to your well-being and helps you avoid health issues, unhappiness, stress (#1 killer!), and all the other unpleasantness everyday life can bring. Take time every day, week, hour, whatever works for you, to do something for you.

Here is a list of ten ways to help keep you being your best self:

1. Go to bed an hour early.
Too many people are not getting enough sleep. A whopping 40% of Americans report getting fewer than seven hours of sleep per night. There is not much that is more important for our health and well-being than getting enough sleep, so do yourself a favor and get to bed early.

2. Spend twenty minutes de-cluttering.
Clutter in the house causes clutter in the mind. It's hard to think clearly when you are surrounded by mess, so spend a twenty minute focus session getting rid of that pesky pile of clutter that always builds up.

3. Soak in a hot Epsom salt bath.
Epsom salts help to relieve muscle tension and the hot tub of water will melt your stresses from the day away. Throw in some lavender essential oil if you like and play some relaxing music. Dump about two pounds of the Epsom salts into the tub and give yourself a good twenty minute soak. You are worth it.

4. Keep yourself hydrated.
About 43% of U.S. adults drink less than four cups of water a day. If you fall into that category, you are suffering from chronic dehydration. The symptoms can include bad breath, dry skin, muscle cramps, cravings for sweets, fatigue, etc.. Every single process in your body down the the cellular level requires water to operate properly, and your body is composed of approximately 60% water, so consuming enough water is extremely important. Some ways to make it easier to stay hydrated are to keep a water bottle handy throughout the day, eat lots of fruits and veggies, sip more during meals, and try a variety of (caffeine-free) teas.

5. Go outside.
It is easy to end up cooped up indoors all day. Make a point to take a walk outside for half an hour and soak up some sun. Studies have shown that being outside benefits the brain and makes us feel more alive and less stressed.

6. Pay it forward.
Helping others is an amazing way to help ourselves in a way that connects us to the greater good of all that is around us. Volunteer, do someone you know a personal favor, or commit a random act of kindness when

opportunity presents. It will boost your confidence and self esteem. Generosity is an endless resource of warm fuzzies and well-being.

7. Mindfulness.
Take a few minutes to focus on the present, and only the present. The sounds, smells, sights, the feel of your feet on the floor, the breeze on your skin. No judgments, just observation. It will help to keep your grounded and more in tune with your true self.

8. Be a bookworm.
Reading is a great way to keep the mind sharp as it ages. Reading fiction in particular promotes creativity, and some would say makes you a more interesting person. Reading can also improve sleep quality and encourage empathy.

9. Get moving.
Anything you can do to get yourself up and moving, do it! Get up and stretch during long stints at the computer, go for a walk, get off the couch and jump up and down, do sit ups, whatever! Muscles are made to move, and we spend way too much time being stationary. A shocking 80% of U.S. adults do not get the recommended amount of exercise, so get up and move, move, move!

10. Unplug.
Everyone seems to have their face in a phone or tablet these days. At home, too many spend hours staring at the TV or computer screen. We are always connected, all the time. Do yourself a favor, and spend one day a week, or however often you can make it happen, to unplug and do anything but look at a screen. Your brain needs the downtime to recharge and function at its best.
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<![CDATA[PSA: Tight Muscles = High Risk of Injury]]>Sun, 01 May 2016 20:23:55 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/05/psa-tight-muscles-high-risk-of-injury.htmlPicture
Today I want to talk about something important. I see this far too often, though it is very preventable. Sports injuries. In particular, sports injuries that occur because of overly tight muscles that are continually neglected, until it is too late.

I can only assume that many people do this simply because they don't realize the impending danger, so let's change that and look at why this happens.

Why is a tight muscle so susceptible to injury during sports activities or a workout? Look at it this way: if a muscle is tight, it is basically stuck in a contracted state, even when you aren't using it. Whether it is 20% contracted or 40% contracted, even when you are not actively engaging the muscle, that muscle is holding onto a pattern that it has gotten locked into, and you are not getting the full use of it.

For one, a muscle like this is weaker than usual. If your muscle is already 20% contracted at all times, you are only getting to use 80% of its strength. A tight muscle is also a starving muscle. It is not getting the


proper amount of circulation, which means it is not getting enough oxygen and nutrients to maintain it at maximum health, which can lead to atrophy, further decreasing the strength potential of that muscle. This will also lead to changes in your movement patterns that can compromise proper form and movement during sports and workout activities, which will put unnecessary pressure on other joints and muscles that will compensate for the weakened body parts. Of course, that can quickly lead to problems in other areas of the body...and so on.

That gradual process of spreading dysfunction is not the only problem. Many people find themselves with injuries that occur quite suddenly and unexpectedly. If a tightened muscle is not addressed, it will typically only get worse over time. It gets tighter, and tighter, pulling harder and harder on itself and the tendons it is connected to, until one day you suddenly contract it during explosive movements, such as sprinting or pitching, and it pulls so hard a tear occurs. The tear may occur in the muscle, though quite often it is the tendon. There is also the danger of pulling your skeletal structure out of alignment. Maybe nothing tears, but those muscles are attached to bones, and what happens when they pull so hard the bones get pulled out of place? Pain, and a lot of it. That most often occurs in the spine and hips, as to where tears are more often in the shoulders (rotator cuff) or legs (hamstrings, meniscus, etc.).

There are many ways to prevent these injuries. Adequate warm up before activities is vital (very vital - make sure you are getting good and warmed up first), and thorough stretching afterward, as well as daily stretching. Save the extensive stretching for after the workout, as static stretches fatigue muscles, and you don't want to do that right before using them at full capacity. Using a foam roller, lacrosse ball, tennis ball, as well as any of a number of tools out there to assist with stretching is a great way to keep muscles loose and healthy. Getting regular massage, one to two times per month at least, in addition to the daily stretching, will do wonders to keep muscles in good working condition. Therapeutic or sports massage is also sometimes a necessary intervention for muscles that are stubbornly locked into a harmful pattern, or have recovered from injury or surgery but are still limited in range of motion due to scar tissue.

Keep in mind that if you have a nagging shoulder, hip, what-have-you, but you think it seems fine once you get warmed up, it isn't! Whatever is nagging you is NOT all gone just because you warmed up. The problem is temporarily masked, and you can still be injured, so be mindful. When in doubt, take precaution and get the issue addressed as soon as possible.



From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com
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<![CDATA[To Be A Guiding Light]]>Mon, 22 Feb 2016 04:45:30 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/02/to-be-a-guiding-light.htmlPicture
Most of us have known someone at one time or another who we felt tended to drag us down, rain on our parade when we are happy about something, or make us feel bad for the good fortune in our lives. In many cases, the offender does not do so intentionally, but the effect is just the same. Of course, if someone is abusive, dangerous, or particularly toxic, getting that person out of our lives is the absolutely right thing to do, including seeking help to do so if necessary.

However, I have known a number of beautiful souls who tend to be very negative, often because they suffer emotionally, but who never intend to cause anyone pain or drag them down. It is often just a side effect of being so down themselves. Sometimes, we have someone in our lives who we care about, who is good person, but who we can hardly talk to without feeling like they have inadvertently burst our bubble, yet again, for no good reason other than the depression they may be struggling with. Sometimes, we find ourselves trying to "save" someone who struggles emotionally because we can see their potential and want to help them realize it, and instead end up feeling like we are being dragged down with them. Is it better to cut these people out of our lives and get on with things? Maybe, maybe not. But, there is a way to approach how we interact with them that tends to mostly take care of the decision for us.

When you know someone who is treading in dark waters, but who isn't actually reaching out for help, first and foremost, don't try to reach down and pull them into your boat, so to speak. Trying to save another 

person that is struggling will only cause you to be pulled down with them, if they are not ready and willing to climb into the boat with you. In these situations, we have to pull back, cut the cord of dependency if there is one, and learn to be a passive guide.

The best thing to do is not to be the lifesaver, but to be a guiding light. Detach, stand back, and show them the way while leaving it up to them to follow, or not. This can be hard at first, because there is often a fear that if we stop reaching out and feeding the cycle, the person we care about will simply drift away. To be honest, that is a possibility. But, if the only way to keep someone in your life is to let them drag you down with them, then maybe they shouldn't be in your life. This is where the hard decisions get made for you. You accept that you may have to let go, and if it becomes necessary, that is what you do. On the other hand, you may be surprised to find that person doesn't drift away. That they follow your guiding light and start to pull themselves up to be where you are. This is such a beautiful thing to see. And, when this approach is appropriate, it is so worth the time and effort. Some people are worth holding onto.

From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com
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<![CDATA[The Art of Everyday Living]]>Mon, 11 Jan 2016 06:44:02 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/01/the-art-of-everyday-living.htmlPicture
"Impermanence is the nature of the human condition."

There is a Zen notion I am rather fond of called wabi sabi. It can be described as a fleeting, imperfect, accidental beauty - unpretentious, simple, and intimate.

It is the weathering of a statue, the nicks of time on furniture, the scarring of old bronze, the crawling of moss on stone, and even the natural aging process of a human being.

It is that last bit, that applies so directly to the experience of being human, that I want to focus on today. Wabi sabi embraces the natural process of growth, decay, and death. It is about accepting the impermanence of everything in life, including life itself.

It may be silly, but when it comes to everyday life, remembering the beauty of wabi sabi can do wonders for relieving stress or disappointment. When your favorite shoes start showing signs of wear and don't look quite so pretty anymore. When you lose an earring. When you look in the mirror on the morning of your 30th birthday and see the first signs of crows feet around your eyes (funny how it seems to work that way, right?). You can fully mourn the loss of what was, while knowing ultimately that it doesn't matter in the big picture, and that nothing is meant to be forever. You can live your human experience to the fullest while knowing that your suffering is not because of impermanence, but because of your reaction to impermanence.

To forget the truth of impermanence is to forget the truth of life. Life is about embracing each moment as it happens, and being able to see the beauty in each of those fleeting, beautiful, perfectly imperfect moments as they are gifted to you.

From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com

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<![CDATA[Forget the Resolutions...]]>Sun, 03 Jan 2016 21:56:35 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2016/01/forget-the-resolutions.htmlPicture
At the beginning of every year many people create a list of goals for the year we call "resolutions." So many start off eating healthy, hitting the gym, putting themselves on a budget, etc.. But, we all know how well that goes. Most don't last more than three months, IF they make it that far. New Year's Resolutions are by and large, a huge failure. So, why do we keep making them, only to end up frustrated? Hmm, I don't know. Maybe we don't know what else to try for self and life improvement?

I have found over the past few years there is a much better way. Every year, I skip the resolutions and instead focus on a theme for the next year. There is something about having a theme that keeps me focused and continuing to take action throughout the year that fits within that theme, and at the end of the year I can look back and see how much I was able to accomplish.

What exactly do I mean by theme? Well, I look at what it is I want to improve in my life and choose a theme accordingly. I like to keep it broad enough to not be too strict about specifically what I am to be doing, but narrow enough to give me a sense of direction and focus.

Themes have been words such as Expansion or Growth, Self Care, Free Time, Create, Health, Independence, etc.. It is best to choose one word (or two if necessary, i.e. "Free Time") with an overarching theme for what area of yourself or your life you want to improve. You can create a plan for yourself within that theme to break down the steps of how you will make it happen if you like.

The reason I find themes to be so effective is that, throughout the year, if I find myself getting off track, I 

can think about my theme word and start taking action again without kicking myself for not being as consistent as I'd like. If your theme is health, you don't have to go all in with a new and overwhelming workout schedule that will burn you out. It is easier to just start taking baby steps doing things that are good for your health and building from there. It takes the pressure of specific goals that may be not realistic off. If you get off track, just remember your theme and start doing whatever you can that gets you there. You'll be surprised when you look back at the end of the year and see what you accomplished for yourself.

What have I accomplished with themes? I started a successful business, got on a regular workout routine, bought a house, started traveling frequently. This year I'm cheating a little - my theme is Organization and Optimization, only because those two words go hand in hand with what I need to bring into my life. I have reached a lot of goals and created a beautiful life, but it's time to bring it all together so everything flows smoothly and is more manageable.

So, give it a try this year and see how it does for you. What is your theme for 2016?

From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com
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<![CDATA[How to get the massage you want]]>Thu, 02 Jul 2015 20:46:21 GMThttp://spiritoflotus.com/1/post/2015/07/how-to-get-the-massage-you-want.htmlDo you find it difficult to communicate to your therapist just what it is you want from your session? Or, do you feel like you are communicating, and yet you still aren't getting what you were seeking? It seems there are a lot of people out there complaining that they have often left a massage therapy session a bit disappointed. Usually this is because either the pressure they received was too much or too little, or the therapist did not spend enough time working on the achey areas, or because the therapist was too chatty and they just wanted to relax. I'm not big on lengthy intros, so let's get the to the meat of the article - tips on how to get the massage you really want.

The best time to specify most of your requests is before the session, during intake. A caring therapist will spend a few minutes finding out just what the client has come in for, but this is also the time for the client to speak up.

1. Do you find the therapist doesn't seem to spend enough time on the area that was your main complaint? If, for example, you have a stiff neck, don't be shy in specifying you want at least ten minutes on just your neck, for example. That way if the therapist tends to only usually spend five minutes, they will know you really want more and need that from your session that day. I wouldn't recommend trying to allot specific time frames for multiple areas, because that can be tedious and your therapist will be too busy clock watching to be able to focus on you, but if you have a special concern that you know you prefer a certain amount of time on, say it! When a client has multiple areas of concern, the therapist may not realize one is 
more important than another, and end up allotting time a bit different than what was hoped for.

You can also say, for example, "I want most of the time spent on my back and neck, and just minimal on the rest of my body", or something to that effect.

Also, more importantly, be sure to specify your goals for the session, as you may know what you want, but not know what is needed to achieve it. The problem is not always where the pain is, so if you want your lower back to stop hurting, your therapist may know that most of the time needs to focus on glutes, hips, and hamstrings, for example, to achieve the goal, not just the lower back itself. So, definitely specify what you need, but also be open to letting the therapist do their thing. Balance in all things.

2. Chatty therapist? Let them know at the beginning of the session you prefer a quiet session. I always follow the client lead on this one. If they are engaging in conversation, I am more than happy to talk, but if the client is quiet, I don't speak unless I have to say or ask something specific to the work I am doing. Unfortunately, not all therapists are good at following a client's cues on this one, so specifying up front what you prefer should ensure you get the level of conversation (or quiet!) that makes you most comfortable.

3. Did the therapist move over a spot that felt just AMAZING, but then quickly moved on and it is still screaming for attention? Speak up! You are always welcome to speak up during the session if a new need comes to your attention. Feel free to say, "That feels really good, can you spend a minute or two on just that spot, please?" Or, whatever you feel you need right then. Many massage therapists have great intuition, but we are not mind readers, so if you need something, please say so!

4. If you asked for a specific pressure before the massage, and yet you feel your needs are not being met, definitely speak up. Pressure is subjective, so deep pressure to one may feel like medium to another. I always try to meet requests, but I have found that different people interpret pressure differently, so if you find that my "firm" pressure is too much for you, for example, don't be afraid to ask for less pressure. Your therapist does not want you just suffering through, I promise.

5. Is the room too hot, or the table too cold? Do you prefer a certain style of music to relax to? Don't be afraid to ask for reasonable accommodations for your session. If you hate having a sheet and blanket on you, we can discuss other draping options, like wearing gym shorts and having no coverings, or maybe you want the sheet but not the blanket. You don't have to take everything as is if you have other preferences.

Many people fear that a massage therapist may be offended and feel criticized if they speak up and ask for what they want, but that couldn't be further from the truth. Feedback is always welcome and appreciated. As hard as we try to meet your needs, you are the only one who really knows what your experience is like and whether it is meeting your expectations and benefiting you to the fullest extent. Let us know!

From the studio of
Neelou Saleh
Licensed Massage Therapist
Kingwood, TX
www.spiritoflotus.com
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